New Year’s One Wish

“You’ve got to know what you want. This is central to acting on your intentions. When you know what you want, you realize that all there is left then is time management. You’ll manage your time to achieve your goals because you clearly know what you’re trying to achieve in your life. ” 

~ Patch Adams


One of my favorite tales is an Irish one namedThe Fairies Gift. In the story a poor woodcutter saves a fairy from a predator and in return is granted one wish. At first he thinks how fortunate he is and he imagines all the things he could wish for. He returns home and tells his family. He is reminded that his wife has always wanted a baby, his mother is blind, and the father reminds his son that they have been so poor that gold would be the answer. fairy


The wish all of a sudden feels like a burden and the woodcutter becomes so confused that he storms out of his cottage and hikes through the field, to the forest and into the mountain where he sits until night fall. At dusk, he sees a shooting star and in an instant he knows what he must do.


When he returns to the cottage his family is sitting in anticipation. One wish, what will it be…the baby, his mother’s sight, or the gold? At last he takes out the magic stone and says, “I wish that my mother will see our new baby lying in a golden cradle.” And with that one wish he made everyone’s dream come true.


Intentions are like wishes. They are our dreams for the future, for our lives. And sometimes we can have so many desires or unclear desires that we can become as confused as the woodcutter.   I know lots of people have given up setting goals for the New Year. I’m not one of them. I like taking time at the end of the year reflect on where I am and where I am going.


If you only had one wish this year, what would you wish for? What are you willing to put your time and energy into? If you could complete one thing what would it be? Life will pass us by whether we wish or not. But when we wish and schedule it into our lives wishes do come true.


Imagine you’ve been given one wish 2015. What would you wish for?


Focusing is about saying No.”Steve Jobs

The more choices we have, the greater the need to focus. - Tom Butler-Bowdon

I am a creative person and as a result, I never have a shortage of ideas.  I can always find a subject I want to explore, think of a new class to create, and find a plethora of things I’m passionate about.  The problem is, is if I want to manifest any one of my ideas (which I do)-I have to stay focused.

The reality is that we only have so much time, energy, and money which means we must choose where to put our energy.  The year as I reflect on the New Year, I’m going write on a 3 x5 card all of the things I’d like to do this year and then ask myself these questions:

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  1. How important is this to me?
  2. Why is it important? (Do I know why this motivates me?)
  3. Is this part of my life purpose?
  4. Would I regret not doing this?
  5. How much time and energy will it take? Can I schedule it in?  Do I have the time?

After I do this I’m then going to prioritize them by importance.  If I could only do one of these, which would it be?  If I could only do two of these, which would I choose?  I’ve learned over the years that I can burn myself out trying to do it all.

Then I’m going to put up an artful display board in my work space where I can connect to my vision each day.  That way when the world begins to encroach on my vision, I can more easily pull myself back to center.

I’ve noticed over the years too that it’s also good to factor in the unexpected and to intentionally make time for important relationships.  It helps to minimize the frustration and makes for a much more balanced lifestyle.



“Listen through your screams to the wind still whispering: Don’t give up — Surrender!”
~ Eric Ganther

“The reason why many are still troubled, still seeking, still making little forward progress is because they haven’t yet come to the end of themselves. We’re still trying to give orders, and interfering with God’s work within us. “
~ A.W. Tozer

“The ego hates losing – even to God.”
~ Richard Rohr, Falling Upward: A Spirituality for the Two Halves of Life

pictures_Page_49Sometimes it’s hard to surrender and trust that God or our higher power has a better plan for our lives. Our little egos are sure they have it all figured out if only God would agree to the plan and then escort it in on our timeline.

I have to tell you I don’t want to move twice. Yet I also know there is wisdom in doing so. I would have never wanted to move in the dead of winter. Yet my inner wisdom told me to sell when I had a “hot buyer” and is telling me now to turn our house over to our new buyers as soon as we can (our goal at this point is to be out by the end of January.) Over the years I’ve learned to trust that intuitive wisdom.

I know from experience that it’s only when we are truly surrendered that the mystery can enter in. I don’t know how it will all unfold, or how long I will have to wait, or how much inconvenience I might have to endure, but I’m going to choose to do it as joyfully as I can and trust that God has a better plan. I will get down on my knees and pray for God’s plan to be revealed. I will wait. I will work the tools of my 12-step program and do my best to continue to surrender and to believe. (BTW, I am so grateful to be working this plan right now.)

Where in your life do you need to surrender? What have you learned about this place? What stories of faith do you have? (Please feel free to share.) I once heard that we don’t learn about faith so much as when our lives are working well, but when we are struggling and choose to believe. This holiday season…I’m grateful to have the opportunity to deepen my faith. I’m grateful for surrender.

Listen to Your Heart

“What’s wrong with the world,” Nana explained, “is that people stopped listening to their hearts…

“Not everybody stopped listening,” she continued, “but enough people did to make a difference. We’ve got so much in this life that all we know how to do is want more. So we concentrate on the wrong things–things we can see–as being the measure of a person. We think if we can win something big or buy something snazzy it’ll make us more than we are. Our hearts know that’s not true, but the eyes are powerful. It’s easier to fix on what we can see than listen to the still, small voice of a whispering heart.”

Nana turned her eyes on me like a vet looking for fleas: “A heart will say amazing things if it’s given half a chance.”

~Joan Bauer, Squashed

iStock_000010996529LargeI remember when my first husband died over twenty years ago I was given the chance to start life anew. I wasn’t clear on what my dreams were anymore because my life had just been turned upside down. But I was clear of one thing: I wanted to live a life that had heart and meaning; I wanted to be able to follow my heart and to live the dream that life had for me.

It took several years of shedding old skins before I could even consider a dream. First I had to grieve my old life, then I had to find out who I was now that I was no longer a wife, mother, or employee (since all of these roles changed within a period of 18 months.) Then I had to be willing to wait and listen so that I could hear the deeper longings of my soul. I would say during that time I had a spiritual transformation and I went from the traditional trappings of the ego of wanting a nice house and a fancy car to wanting to live a life in alignment to the God/Goddess within.

For a couple of years, I waited, listened, and agonized as I waited to be shown. Eventually I emerged from that time knowing that I was here to help others to overcome their limitations and to give support to others moving through spiritual transformation. Thus began the life I am living now which continues to open and expand in ways I could have never imagined as I continue to follow the urgings of my heart.

Sometimes I can still fall off the beam especially when I let my life become too busy. That’s why I make the time for the daily prayer and meditation that it is a part of my 12-step program even when it means getting up at 5:30 or 6:00 every morning. It slows me down enough so I can hear the amazing things my heart has to say. What might you heart have to say? Success and abundance doesn’t necessarily mean you have to have the best everything. I think it’s more related to: “Did you follow and live what is inside you?”

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